Dai's Life Inventory Assessment Results Reviewed with Maurice Thibodeau: Part 2

Embark on a transformative journey with Maurice Thibodeau as he unveils the mechanics behind his Life Inventory Assessment on our latest 2% Solution Podcast episode.

This isn't just another self-help guide; it's a deep dive into evaluating and enhancing every dimension of your existence.

NB: To actually see the amazing results from my assessment, be sure to watch the video here.

As I lay bare the intricacies of my personal revelations, Maurice coaches us through a map of our lives, highlighting areas ripe for growth.

This invites all our listeners to engage with a Life Inventory Assessment, unlocking the door to substantial self-improvement and insightful reflection.

Throughout this episode, we navigate the waters of work satisfaction, financial stability, and the alignment of our deepest beliefs with the priorities we set in life.

The stories I share, from fulfilling long-held dreams to facing down mental health challenges, illustrate the power of intentionality in improving key life areas.

It's about more than just balance; it's about channeling our energy where needed most to cultivate a more enriching existence.

Maurice's expertise shines as we address hurdles like imposter syndrome and financial stress, framing them as gateways to a brighter future vision rather than insurmountable walls.

As we wrap up this series, we reflect on the remarkable impact emotional well-being has across social, leisure, and professional spheres and how tackling it with self-compassion can catalyze positive change.

The Life Inventory Assessment Bundle is not just a toolkit; it's a catalyst for a lifelong commitment to fulfillment, offering you the Nendera guide, a manifesto ebook, and an exclusive masterclass. 

Join us for an episode that promises to reshape your perspective on personal growth and inspires you to take immediate steps toward a more satisfying life, accompanie

Chapters

• 0:00 Life Inventory Assessment
• 13:00 Exploring Life Priorities and Finding Focus
• 27:16 Exploring Work Life and Financial Beliefs
• 36:18 Reflecting on Priorities and Aligning Beliefs
• 41:58 Addressing Emotional Energy and Financial Stress
• 49:10 Exploring Emotions and Overcoming Challenges
• 59:31 The Life Inventory Assessment Bundle

Transcript

Dai Manuel: 0:00

Welcome back. This is a groundbreaking episode of 2% Solution Podcast session at first part two this week and today we've got something so exciting that even our microphones are doing happy dance. Trust us, you won't see. Now I'm thrilled to bring you an exclusive conversation with Maurice Thibodau, the visionary behind the Life Inventory Assessment. And, hey, best understanding, we encourage you to check out the video recorded with this conversation by the link in the show notes.

Dai Manuel: 0:29

We go deep on the assessment I took, as you heard in part one, and, ultimately, the profound impact this assessment has made on my life. And no, it didn't just magically make me taller we're a world-class chef but it did provide me with a clear roadmap to strengthen the performing areas in my life. Shouldn't having a toolkit and fingertips that could change the trajectory of your life? That's what's on the table. Plus, maurice has a special limitation for all our listeners to access the Life Assessment Fundal, an opportunity that's so good it might just make your wallet do a happy dance to it. Stay tuned as we dive into mechanics of life transformation, power of self-assessment and how you can start lifting the life you've always dreamed. Let's get inspired.

Dai Manuel: 1:18

Let's get motivated and let's make change then Don't forget to subscribe and share this podcast with someone ready to take their life the next minute. Now onto reviewing my life inventory assessment results and the actionable steps Maurice helped me identify. Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of the 2% Solution Podcast. As I interred in the introduction, again, this is sort of part d, and part d being the French, and I think it makes sense because Maurice's last name we were just having a discussion before we hit record about what it pronounced, your last name, by the way, being someone that grew up in Ontario, canada, right next to that French province of Quebec, but also you're based in Manitoba. Yes, sir, there's a huge French contingency in Manitoba as well, so it's a lot of my best friends are actually from Winnipeg, and not the lover of minute, but I'm from Winnipeg, or Winterpeg as we call it up here in Canada, and I know they're bilingual. Yeah, anyways, I digress.

Dai Manuel: 2:26

We're back because it's part two and we're talking all about the life inventory assessment. So, as we talked about in episode one, part one with Maurice, I was very excited because he invited me to actually take the inventory assessment, which was an eye opener, to say the least, but it was also very simple. I mean it requires thought. There are very thoughtful questions and situations more that put yourself in sort of a position to really reflect, introspect and take your own inventory on really what's your emotional state around some of these areas of life. And so with that I welcome Maurice back. Hello, maurice, hello, do you want to do a quick reintroduction to yourself, real briefly, and then we'll jump in and I'm going to let you take it over and let's guide me through the process of walking me through the results of my life inventory assessment. I know there's a whole process to this and I'm excited to be able to share this with everybody.

Maurice Thibodeau: 3:19

Yeah, absolutely. And first of all, I really am going to do this later again, but I have so much respect for you saying, hey, I'm willing to do this and I'm going to open up my life in front of my entire audience, like that speaks volumes to your vulnerability. It's like most people won't, don't even do this level of reflection and but I think, and also the people that are listening to your podcast, right, they are in the wellness kind of reflection type of space and I really look at this as like an ultimate life review. And remember it was built over 20 years of my wife and I going on an annual retreat and seeing how are we going to look at our life, and every year I would pull in the things that I learned from the year before, the books that I'd read, the leadership courses I had taken, and then later on, eventually, the, what I'd learned is therapy and therapeutic practice, to be like, oh, hey, we should be looking at this too. Oh, we should be asking this. So I call it like an ultimate life review. And when you said, it's actually it's not about complexity, it's about more the completeness, because we look at so many cat, we play so many roles in our life.

Maurice Thibodeau: 4:40

Right, you're a father. Right You're a friend. You're an entrepreneur. Right, you're a gym. I can say gym rat, but I know you're a health nut. Right.

Maurice Thibodeau: 4:53

I am all these different parts of our identity.

Maurice Thibodeau: 4:57

So this review is taking a step back in splicing each of those roles in our lives to gain greater understanding, and what we're going to do will demonstrate I'm going to call it kind of more in a rapid response right away.

Maurice Thibodeau: 5:14

It's what I train coaches to do, that get certified to use the tool. It's really about guiding your review process of your life so that we can find insights to live an even higher quality of life. We like to guarantee you, when someone does a life review session, I call it an ultimate, ultimate life review session and the guarantee is that in less than 90 minutes today we're going to do it even faster that you're going to gain insights, to get greater momentum to live a higher quality of life. We guarantee that and I can guarantee that using this type of framework because, rather than us sitting through like sessions and me gaining all the context of your life you're an amazing guy and I'd love to do that and also it would take hours and people don't have time and that's a lot of times like people can get disenchanted with coaching or even therapy, where it's like, hey, spend all this money and all this time and sometimes I just don't feel like it goes anywhere or anywhere fuzzy, pardon me.

Dai Manuel: 6:25

Well, I was also going to say it's great because it explains where we're at now, I know because it's a very personal, very subjective reflection. It's me reflecting on my life, my emotional, psychological states that I feel during certain situations or certain aspects of my life, and so I really found the exercise quite useful because it was like you're shining a flashlight in these different areas of my life and some of the more ones that I was like yeah, that's a dark little corner of my home. I'm trying to put a plant in so I can ignore it, because sometimes ignorance is bliss, as the cliche goes because those things stress us out, they create anxiety, they create these ill feelings and self-doubt and self-deprecation. At times I know I have found myself in those. Well, call them a hole. I find myself in these little holes at times.

Maurice Thibodeau: 7:14

And.

Dai Manuel: 7:14

I've shared openly with my audiences. I've struggled with mental health challenges pretty much my entire life, stemming from when I was more than the obese as a teen, to struggling with alcohol consumption for a good 15 years of my life and top that autoimmune condition, and it's oh man, give me a break. Man, give me a break. No, but I can look at all those things and be very poo about them all.

Maurice Thibodeau: 7:33

Or.

Dai Manuel: 7:34

I can actually take the lessons, take the growth that I've achieved by going and working through those, and I think your exercise actually helped me reflect on some of those periods, which I found very helpful, because it's also very helpful to be able to reflect back on how far I've come and, even though this inventory is where I'm at right now, it gives me a very clear path of where I can go next and I know that's what you're going to help me with today. So I'm stoked man, I'm really stoked.

Maurice Thibodeau: 8:00

Yeah, that's that's. Yeah, that's exactly it, and I'll break it down. What we're doing today, it's actually as simple as ABC. Okay, we're back to our ABC.

Dai Manuel: 8:10

Okay, I did okay in that subject.

Maurice Thibodeau: 8:15

So A is going to be awareness. Right, we're going to look at all the facets of your life. Where exactly are you now taking that awareness? B is going to be belief, and this is where, particularly, it really can be helpful to do this coach assistant, because it can be pretty easy for us to lose belief in who we are and what we're capable of. So it's about kind of that. Belief is about letting go of the past, the stuff that doesn't belong to you, and really coming into that ideal vision of your future and having a mindset and an emotional kind of fueling of it. That's going to give you the best chance to succeed. And then C is commitment. It's like breaking it down into simple actions of what's next, how will I get the momentum in this area of my life to move forward? And then, when you learn that as a framework, and then it's rinse and repeat Right, you pick your category that you need to focus on and read and repeat ABC. So let's go through some of that right now.

Maurice Thibodeau: 9:23

Very first thing, this I haven't studied your life map. I did that on purpose. I put it on my screen just so I could have it there and we wouldn't. I've looked at it. This would be my first look at your life map and the Life Lab is the online tool like that you get. It's an interactive tool. Those in your community will actually get to see this video and see us work through it. I'll try to be communicative of it. People know what we're looking at, if that's a word, so before I open it up always it's do I have permission to look at your life?

Dai Manuel: 9:55

You have permission, man, let's go. Let's everybody. We're pulling back the drapes, the curtains, and let's see the wizard. And no judgment, everybody. Because I was trying to be as honest and as out of integrity I you know what full disclosure. I know I'm pretty open, I talk about vulnerability. This is me just living into that, and but I hope this is an example for everyone of listen. As a matter of where you're at in life. There's always opportunity to grow, to improve, to move on, but it's also very beneficial to have the clarity to know what to do. Otherwise, man, we procrastinate like crazy as a species. We are just naturally lazy as human beings, and so I'm really excited about this. So take it away.

Maurice Thibodeau: 10:37

Maurice, you bet and you so thank you for saying that, invoicing that, no judgment from your audience. And even the first thing is, as you look through this, we really want to go through this entire process with a tone of compassion. It's and that goes a little bit against when we look at, like the data, because we look at data and it's important like we score. You've scored things, so like you've got a life score in your top right hand corner of 68%, and then all of a sudden it's oh 68%.

Maurice Thibodeau: 11:14

I don't want to be in the ninth, it's just data.

Dai Manuel: 11:17

I'm passing though, right, hey, give me a C coach. But also I just want to make a quick note everyone that I was reflecting on now Okay, I'm reflecting now because if I was thinking about it on different periods of my life, I mean, I know my finances are a stressor. I got two kids in university, I've got. I had made some bad investments. Okay, crypto, anyone. It's awesome.

Dai Manuel: 11:42

On top of that, it just I've made some poor financial decisions the last couple of years and I had no regrets. But I mean, had we done this five years ago, that would have been up there in the flow state. So it's again. We have to recognize that there is a natural ebb and flow with our life and with these different areas in life. So, just full disclosure and transparency. I was basing this on the now today's date. Well, just to put it into context, I just turned 47 a couple of weeks ago. So just some more. I think, from an age perspective, that's going to be more relevant than the actual date of the time that we're doing. So, just to put this, this is my 47 year old self reflecting on my life at this moment.

Maurice Thibodeau: 12:19

That's right and you could change this. Like. Your life map is constantly moving, so it might be different it like you might feel differently in three months. One of the cool things is that I host retreats, transformational coaching retreats and all of people take it the week before, the week after and nothing in their outside life will change, but their life map and their energy and their mindset around it will significantly change. Their actual scores and how they're viewing life will change, based on nothing but the energy. So maybe even after this conversation, your life map might change and the scores don't really matter.

Maurice Thibodeau: 13:00

What we're after here is, with a tone of care and compassion, of boldly taking a radical awareness of how am I feeling about my life right now. And the reason we do 13 categories is, like you said, if you've got something that you're kind of ignoring in the background, we want it to be complete, because ignoring that isn't necessarily going to make it go away and often eventually it just breaks down or blows up. We want to be ahead of that. The value of this is gaining that momentum in your life, taking that awareness, feeling it was belief, and then putting commitment around change, whatever right that focuses for you. So thank you for going through this, and let's make sure, as we go through this is we're honoring your commitment to self development, your commitment to say, hey, I'm going to look at stuff and I'm going to boldly be honest and I'm going to give myself grace and love in the process.

Dai Manuel: 13:58

Okay so awesome, awesome, I love it. Let's do this more. And also, I'm excited because, three months from now, I'm going to redo this, because, also, I'm going to be taking the certification course full disclosure. But I'm, like, so impressed by this tool. I want to know as a coach, as someone that mentors people through big life decisions and shifts, and even just navigating my own life.

Dai Manuel: 14:19

I'm excited to implement this tool in my own practice and share it with people, because I just already found this very enlightening, based on a lot of the old standard tools and many of us life coaches rely on, like the wheel of life, right, which is to be fair, it's kind of funny, right? We hear the expression, hey, can we reinvent a better wheel? Well, hell, yeah, maurice did so. Anyways, full disclosure on that. I know that's going to be coming up in a few months, so I know by that point in time, I'll be redoing this. It'll be interesting to see what those intentional three months provide. Anyways, but yeah, I was just going to say, maurice, we'll do a follow up then as well. Yeah, perfect.

Maurice Thibodeau: 14:51

So this and that's a good. This is like the wheel of life in the context of today's world, because the context of our world today is we live in this abundant life with all these different parts of our identity that we're juggling. So the very first thing, I've got your life map up. There shows 13 categories and you ranked your highest priorities from your lowest priority. So that's how they show up from top to bottom in your top six. So your top one is character, next is physical health, then is emotional health, then your creative talents, then immediate family and then love life and then they go on from there. So I just mentioned your top six.

Maurice Thibodeau: 15:31

One of the one of the goals we're doing in this practice is yeah, we want to have an overview, look at everything, but by the end of our time together is we want to find focus. So one or two areas of your life and or a theme, a central theme that kind of shows up when we look at everything. That if you put some focus and some intention on, with some committed action, that all of a sudden that not only that phase of your life would see a greater gain in fulfillment and quality, but all of a sudden your energy towards all the other categories would also be more available for gain in your entire life. We don't want to have action items in every single one of these categories, because that's just overwhelming. It's hey, let's look at the whole piece, but let's have a goal to find focus today and to find those one or two insights that are going to most benefit you. That's my joint goal with you as we look at your life map. So the very first thing, when I've looked at hundreds and hundreds of these things and as a future coach that will be trained, when you look at some of life map, it will be like light bulbs opening, like you're just going to have a whole bunch of like an immediate download and insight into, okay, what's going on with this person.

Maurice Thibodeau: 16:55

So, right away, what I see is that in your highest categories they are in the most fulfilled state. You can see it's. They have a right alline towards the quadrants, flow at ease. Some of them are all the way in those two quadrants and what that means is you've ranked them both in your and how you answered the two questions. There's one that's kind of more of a cognitive question that asks you about how you feel about your happiness. And then there's a question at the very end that's more somatic. It gets into the bones, the body, and it says hey, when you check in with your body, how are you feeling about this area of your life? So we take your head and your heart. What are they both saying? We take that average and that's what we call your fulfillment ranking. So are you feeling fulfilled in this area of your life? And for your top priority categories, they are most fulfilled. So that tells me that you're prioritizing the things that are most important to you.

Dai Manuel: 17:59

That's cool.

Maurice Thibodeau: 17:59

Which is amazing, right, it's also evident in my actions.

Dai Manuel: 18:02

So I know that consistent actions, I should say like I take actions in all these areas. It's the consistency and frequency that determines, obviously, where it ends up on this map and so.

Dai Manuel: 18:12

I recognize those areas I've been neglecting the last six months, especially based on my own mental health challenges I've been working through I'm on the other side of that now but it's like whoa, last six months have been rough, which is reflective here. It's very much reflective here. So, yeah, sorry, didn't mean to cut you off, but I thought I'd throw in that in a little bit of context as well.

Maurice Thibodeau: 18:30

No, that's perfect. And I normally do this in a 60 minute or 90 minute container, and so some of the parts that I might skip through but you're generously giving back is I'll usually make an observation or a curious thing and then I'll come back to you and say does that feel true to you? What's going on here? In some of those parts I'm just kind of maybe speaking through. Okay, we see that. And then one of the things I like to do is okay, do I see any obvious? Or what's my kind of most curious guess is where we might find focus.

Maurice Thibodeau: 19:08

And as I look at your life map, the category that's furthest to the left is financial, and you've talked about that already in the intro. So I, even though it's only number nine in your, it's all the way down to number nine in your priority because it's furthest to the left, showing that it's in the most unfulfilled state. I have an immediate curiosity towards it. So I definitely want to kind of double click there and it's actually a double click, I mean literally double click. There's going to be a bunch of info. And then I'm curious about spirituality. It can be a more elusive kind of category and I'm curious to have a discussion around it to find out is it feeling neutral for you or is it actually sucking your energy? Because even though you have it in a lower category, it's got a negative state. So I just want to make sure there's no boring spot there and I'll want to click on that. I'll demonstrate that.

Maurice Thibodeau: 20:10

Otherwise, there's potentially a theme here that shows up in a lot of iachiever life maps. I don't totally see it here, because you do have at least one to you, three categories that are pretty much totally in abundance. But there is, if you look like emotional, love, work, leisure, social and even like social contribution. These are all categories of your life. There's a really kind of like pretty straight line and sometimes and I've actually named it I call it the high, high achievers.

Maurice Thibodeau: 20:47

So listen to this definition and just see if it, if it fits for you at all. I call it the high achievers. Hold back mindset and it's this idea that's been ingrained from us about what performance is and what success is. But it's this idea that okay for me to get to where I want to go, for me to achieve what I want to achieve, I have to hold back how happy I am right now. It's kind of more like the stick than the carrot. I have to really kind of keep a lid on the excitement of my life right now because I know there's so much more. So I'm going to kind of always rate myself just a little bit kind of below the top, so there's always room to grow. I'm just seeing you smile. Does that sound okay?

Dai Manuel: 21:42

I feel like you've been just jumped into my head. I guess it was. No, it's so funny because my wife and I talk about this as well and we're big believers Like I used to. I'd have clients, when you ask them to self assessments, and inevitably I would never give them like if I was assessing them and they would see on some of these forums that they can never pick 10. I don't allow them to go to nine and they'd always say, well, I feel like I'm a 10. I'm like you know, there's always room for improvement. Yeah, and I did find myself I did actually when I was doing this thinking I want to answer higher, but being really cognizant of where I'm at right now, I wanted to be more honest and because I also want to acknowledge that I feel those are the areas I have the biggest opportunity to grow in, yeah, so I found myself definitely emotionally wanting to answer higher, but psychologically I'm like I'm not focusing on this. I don't really deserve a higher grade in these areas, Do you?

Maurice Thibodeau: 22:37

know what I mean.

Dai Manuel: 22:38

But I also I think it's really interesting, if I can just ask you a question here, maurice Like these are so connected, like the extended family, social leisure, love, like immediate family, like you can see, I can see why those are all almost all vertical because they're also tightly connected, at least in my life, yes, and I think that's also why they're all sort of at the same, where I feel like if I'm doing one thing there, probably all those areas will also see equal improvement. Right, but it's a figure out. What is the one thing I got to focus on first that's going to allow all those other areas to shift? And truthfully, I know it's a lot of my time is, mentally and energetically, is spending stress on finances, even though we're okay. But it's just like I got kids I get.

Dai Manuel: 23:17

Just there's big expectations right now and it's oh, I just those stresses. Right, I got kids. I've got at least another five years of schooling ahead of them in university in Canada. It ain't cheap people, so there's some stress with that. So, anyways, I can throw it back to you. But, yes, you are spot on with what you just said. That feels like you literally just described.

Maurice Thibodeau: 23:36

Okay awesome and I want to point out I'm not saying that it's. The question is and like how is that serving you or not serving you? Because whether someone has a, I see my own high achievers hold back mindset at all the time and then I kind of go through the question is that serving me today? And we're never going to be at 10 or 10, right All the time in any one of these categories, to also recognize that it's temporal. But the biggest thing that I like to pull out of that mindset is the permission to be a 10 out of 10 in in in that fulfillment, in that presence, even though you've got more to achieve. It kind of like to allow that.

Maurice Thibodeau: 24:24

Oh, actually, given my age and my stage and my plan, right now I can be in full joyous like work, like doing what I'm doing, because I like I know where I'm going and I know I'm not there yet, but I'm okay with that, I accept that and just leaving that to permission. So one of the quick wins in that if I identify that somebody relates with it, I'll say, hey, you know what? Let's pick a category of your life and just for the next week, right, or the next right, whatever time frame it is week is great. Find moments to experience a 10 out of 10 of fulfillment where you're head and your heart in that moment, or just allowing you to experience, right, being totally fulfilled in any one of these life categories and just do it by moment, and it's the permission there that I think can be really enlightening. It can be really kind of life-filling. So that's, I mean you leave you with that. Is there a life category that you would pick to practice that if you accepted that challenge?

Dai Manuel: 25:31

Well, I think to be fair, yeah, that idea of allowing myself to feel like a 10. Yeah, I think truthfully, like the love category and the work fulfillment category, because, truthfully if I didn't get paid to do what I do, I'd still yeah, you know what I?

Dai Manuel: 25:52

mean, and so I know that I wanted to answer. More than that. I feel very fulfilled with the work that I do, especially with the new focus the last few months, but I did find myself holding back because I have this part of me that ties work career. There's a part of my ego that's oh, you're not, you don't have the finances to match. So why would I be feeling like I'm in a 10 when I don't have the finances to back? And now, that's just my belief.

Dai Manuel: 26:12

Obviously, that success is tied to a monetary factor, right, rather than a fulfillment factor, and so this has been. Yeah, this is really enlightening, to be honest with you, because that's exactly now. You've become just more aware of that, just in this 30 seconds, right. It's oh man, that's crazy. But that's super interesting because I do know that there's that piece there. So I probably would have answered a 10 or like it'd be up there in that flow state if my finances were in a different situation. For sure, and I actually feel if my finances were in a different situation, a lot of those yellows would be more red, more red higher up there and probably closer to the flow state as well. So I know the finance piece and the work life piece. I think those are two that I'd like to allow myself to just feel into more.

Maurice Thibodeau: 26:56

Yeah, so, and I think I love that you went to work that. So financing, work are usually what we call connected categories like the one to one connection in most people finance and work. They have that, unless maybe you're retired or something, but typically those are closely connected. I right now so the listeners can hear, I've got your work life.

Maurice Thibodeau: 27:20

We've double clicked on your work life and the five questions that you answered around this area of your life were on happiness, time alignment, engagement level, capability and emotional energy. And what's interesting to me and what you just keyed in on is well, in my work life, I actually I love it. I feel like what if I were to be reading your emotional energy from what you just shared? That wasn't a six, that was like an eight or a nine I'm leaving a little bit, maybe even a 10. Right, when we do interviews like this, like you exude an energy unless you're faking it, but I'm really I think that please read your exuding a nine or 10 energy, but something when you went through this, weighed you down to a six.

Dai Manuel: 28:16

And honestly, it was the finance piece. Sure, absolutely. I know it. I know that about me right now. It's just so weird because at 47, I'm like I'm worrying about this now. I mean it's I got lots of years left to earn and save and do all the stuff that they say you should be doing, but it's still. This is that part of my brain starts to think about the future and thinking about geez, I should be more responsible with my finances and, man, I shouldn't find myself in this situation stressing about money at this late a stage in life. So there's all those little pieces of my mind that are definitely influenced in that emotional energy. For sure, for sure, right.

Maurice Thibodeau: 28:50

And then that bleeds into how you're looking at your work life. Yes, and one of the you know benefits of slicing it in these ways is OK. Well, if we just looked at your work life and and considered what is the emotional energy that is going to serve you at the highest, that's going to most serve you, what are the beliefs and mindset behind that energy? What would you need to believe in order for you to, when you fill this out, to actually have shown up like you showed up in this call? Right, energetically, you're at eight or a nine when you talk to what your work. So what would you need to believe in order for you? Ok, I think I actually want to ask it OK.

Dai Manuel: 29:38

so I need to believe that my quality of work and fulfillment through work isn't predicated on my financial situation.

Maurice Thibodeau: 29:51

Does that make sense?

Dai Manuel: 29:52

I think I need to start believing that just because the financial piece isn't there yet on some of these new projects or initiatives that I'm doing, this new? Last three months, yeah, my income has been the lowest it's been in like 30 years and I'm not quite on more like 25 years. That's like the lowest it's ever been. But I also know why it happened. It's because I changed my focus, I changed what I was doing and I just made some poor decisions. I just did. That's all it is.

Dai Manuel: 30:18

But I know that I believe that both of them are not like I need to believe that there is the term mutually exclusive, right, I need to start believing that the two don't have a direct tie together, even though there is a time I mean it's kind of weird saying this. Does that make sense? I know you can probably better articulate this for me because, again, this is I know there's an emotional piece that's tripping me up with this. Yeah, do you know what I mean, that emotional part of my brain is? I want to say this, but I just don't know how to articulate the logic and the emotion are like yeah, I can't line up right now. So maybe I'll lean on you a bit here, marista, because I know you've been through like literally hundreds and hundreds of these. So what? How would you best articulate what I'm trying to explain there?

Maurice Thibodeau: 30:55

Well, I've been through it. I've been through it and I've also actually lived where you like. When I left my corporate job right, I'm still like it took me years, so where I would typically go is OK. Well, what's your fear here? So it's like you. And then I'm like I know what it is.

Dai Manuel: 31:13

I know what it is because I work with clients on this all the time, like it's so funny, right, but it's that imposter syndrome. I know it's that because I believe that, to be the kind of person that I am and showing up the way I'm showing up, I should have the financial Confidence that I believe someone in my position should have. Hmm, I don't, and that's a limiting belief on my part. So I'm just like full, fully owning that, and I know there's a part of me that feels like an imposter at times, right, because even one of my five s and I think this is where the connection is that finances is one of my primary values. What I mean by that is like how I show up in the world to create not only impact, but how I'm enumerated for the work and efforts that I put out to the world. And so that financial piece that f you know, because I have fitness, faith, family finances and obviously always having a lot of fun. So it's five s and I feel very misaligned with the financial piece right now which is creating this little bit of an imposter syndrome.

Dai Manuel: 32:04

What's funny? I have not reflected and gone this deep on this. I've just sort of been ignoring, shoot open that all of a sudden I have a windfall or something to correct it, right, because all it takes is like a couple of new clients and a couple of new consulting contracts and I'm in a completely different situation. You know what I mean. So it's not, it's not dire, but it's just frustrating. And for me, looking at myself, I just had a huge light bulb. Thank you, maurice.

Maurice Thibodeau: 32:29

Yeah, so the other thing I'd like to like highlight with this is you just made up some major decisions. You transition from something that you'd been building for a while and you transition that so to move back into the reasons and the values behind. Why did you transition Right to anchor back into that? You made a decision, you made an adult decision that had some risk involved and you're just really starting it Right.

Dai Manuel: 33:03

So it's so true, yeah, true.

Maurice Thibodeau: 33:06

To have that temporal approach of oh, this is right, I actually signed up for this, yeah.

Dai Manuel: 33:14

So true, you're right. Yeah, I was burnt out on doing what I used to do. I mean, I did for 17 years, right, it was great, it was fun, I enjoyed it until I didn't Right. But I didn't want to be that guy that just kept doing something he didn't like, didn't find fulfillment in it, because my mental state and that emotional health piece that comes with that, but also my family it, was starting to be affected, yeah, negatively, based on the stresses that were coming from non fulfilled work. So, you're right, I left for a good reason, one of which was almost actually all the five s, because even my health was starting to fail because of that stress, that burden of doing things and getting up to everyone and be like, oh God, I got it again, the heaviness I felt, right. And so all those five s did become much more realigned when I transitioned away from the 17 year career. And then I had lots of great years there. I mean, our family and I traveled full time for five years and had some amazing experience, great connections, and then not to be the Debbie Downer here or the Dumber Dave, but the pandemic definitely took some wind out of myself, like it did with a lot of us, and I think it's just been a bit of a slow recovery ever since then because I've been changing my focus and my intentions with how I show up for and so you're right, I have to revisit. Well, why the hell did I transition away anyway? And, to be fair, this conversation is good it's actually better than it's great because I know I need to set some intentional time not to go do that.

Dai Manuel: 34:32

I guess I actually had journals like. I wrote a personal manifest, not my whole life in this manifest, but a personal career based manifesto. And it was actually the straw that broke Camel's back as far as me and my business partners relationship, because he didn't pay me the respect to even read it. Yeah, and it was a 10. I would have probably stayed at my fast career. Yeah, because I had a vision of what I wanted the company to look, like it but also my life to look, and I wanted to align the two. And he didn't even read it and that's what I knew. I was like I can't be here, so it doesn't make sense.

Maurice Thibodeau: 35:03

So let's, let's go to that vision, to that manifest. Just to think about the some of the things that you wrote and that manifesto, what do you think about that life vision? What are the emotions that come up?

Dai Manuel: 35:15

Exciting. Yeah film and I guess I think about it like it was, almost like it was a text based vision board, if you will. Yes, really what it turned into. And then from it and created a vision board or a vision screen. So you were right, like I'm, I don't have magazines anymore. I'm like digital. I can't make a vision board and plus, we were traveling is like some less cumbersome Anyways, yeah, so with that, Excited yeah.

Dai Manuel: 35:38

It was excitement. There was like this positive energy. There was a bit of fear, but it was an exciting fear, right. It was like a happy fear from the standpoint. There's certain types of fears that you run towards. It was one of those, right, yeah, because the fear of going back and continue to do what I was doing was a far greater fear that I didn't want to own.

Dai Manuel: 35:55

So, yeah, which is the lesser of the two evils and just going forward and living my best life. But being a full time family and experiencing the world, that was a priority and that was something that got us really excited and and it still is a big part of what gets us excited. It was connecting with communities and doing all that stuff.

Dai Manuel: 36:11

But it was also the idea of really having 100% control over my creative talents and the things that I want to do. We often talk about ourselves like we stopped using the term busy. I'm not busy anymore, yeah, and I'm like no my days are full?

Dai Manuel: 36:27

Yeah, because they're full of the things I want to fill it with the people. I want to fill with the experience I want to fill it with I'm never busy anymore. I don't wear that badge anymore. Hey, ask me how busy I am, like I, I got rid of that and so, yeah, you're absolutely right. I got to go back to that because there was a lot of things I shared in that manifesto that I have actually accomplished in the last number of years since I transitioned away. But it's funny how I forget that In our head talk. I did a tech talk, right, like we traveled the world, we lived in Southeast Asia for almost three years, like I just I think about all these things that were on that vision board which accomplished, wrote a bestseller, published a book. It was just all these stuff. And that's kind of funny how you forget all that.

Maurice Thibodeau: 37:06

Yeah, so I think for you to, and you said that you're going to take this further as a nation, so I think it's perfect action to to go through that reflection and I would recommend keep it really simple. Maybe a one pager with the values of OK, why am I doing what I'm doing right now? Are they aligned? You said with your five S, and you could do that every day, at any time and at any day, and look at those apps and say, ok, what's my alignment? And what I would invite you to do is when, particularly when you're looking at that financial app, whether you're like right, it's not, it's not, it's not.

Maurice Thibodeau: 37:49

I made these choices, I guess it is an F word but it's not.

Dai Manuel: 37:53

Yeah.

Maurice Thibodeau: 37:55

When you look at that one and pay attention to the tone, first of all, of your self talk, and with that self talk, not only look at where you are, but look at the belief that you have and where you're going, and that's where that belief part is. Is that belief aligned? And the other really important thing I want to say is without expectation or attachment, there's no guarantees. You've made a tough transition choice to go after something that you love and believe in and right now it's like the the line on the financial is a lot lower than where you want it to be. Well, as long as you believe in the future that you're building, that's what you got right now. And do that with your full force and your clean energy, like the energy that you actually talk when you're talking about your manifesto. That's the best energy to manifest that anyway. And also, if it doesn't like pan out, you've got options transition Once you translate.

Maurice Thibodeau: 39:01

There's no guarantees. So if you actually take failure as one of the options that might happen and know that you're fine, you still got your, like all these other things that are really important, you can balance from that. So it's, if you knew that you might fail, would you still do this? Yeah, of course.

Dai Manuel: 39:19

And the funny thing is, even when we transitioned away from our careers, both my wife and I both quit our jobs like in three months, right, and pulled the kids out of school and we're like we didn't have a ton of savings but we had enough to at least get started. But then it was like I had to rely on what I was going to generate online while we were traveling. I had to completely shit going from a brick and mortar retail operation to now trying to be digital nomad and it was a huge learning curve, right, but it was fun. It was exciting because it was different. But the thing that my wife and I often used to talk about because the finance piece we'd come up and be like, oh geez, we're getting pretty low on the account there and we got these travel plans.

Dai Manuel: 39:54

We don't have a lot of coaches, we might need an Airbnb, like, just some flights, like, et cetera, and so you start to think about that and we always used to say and I still believe this today, but I think I forget to acknowledge that is we're very employable, like I know, I get offers, right, I get headhunters reaching out to me, I get people that are looking to recruit me into their companies. So I know there's opportunities if I want to take it. But for me right now that's not a line of what I want right and where I'm going and what I want to build into. But it's funny because last week in full okay, full transfer I'm getting vulnerable here.

Dai Manuel: 40:29

I mean, my wife and I got into a heated argument around the finances, right, and I'm like, well, I'll just go get a job. And it was just like out of that, that emotional sort of triggered response, right, and when I calmed down she came back and we don't really want that. Like we both believe in what we're doing and what I'm working on. Thank you for the reminder there, please. You're bringing back into focus some things that have definitely been neglected for me.

Maurice Thibodeau: 40:51

Awesome. I'm super glad for that. Okay, let's, let's. I think we found out, we found our area of focus, honestly, and it's actually in in my so many of this feels true for you. There we'll go and we'll look at financial right away, but I think it's actually more to do our own work than financial, because they're really tightly connected and work is a higher priority for you and it's actually around this mindset, I think. If, when you wake up in your day and you're going through your work day, it's if this is transferred from a six just your emotional energy to the energy and the belief that I hear from you that you exude in the world. If you hit it with that every day, it's that's going to pull your finances forward. You already feel super capable of it. You're engaged when you do it. I'm curious about time alignment. You were like mid-range. Do you think you're spending too little or too like? Like how do you feel?

Dai Manuel: 41:56

Okay, I'll let you know where that came from, and I'm going to do. Some people are aware if you're connected with me on LinkedIn and see some of my other posts I've been involved in the health tech startup and it's been great. But of course, it's not a paid position, it's an earn into equity position and so there's and there's always risk with startups Come on, we all know that and for everyone that succeeds, there's 10 that fail. So there's a bit of risk with that and but I'm not very risk averse, I'm of that age so I made the decision to put more time and energy into that. Yeah, but that would take away energy from the things that I was doing, that was producing, that was creating that emotional energy level to be higher. So I think that's why the time and the emotional piece are so much like.

Dai Manuel: 42:38

The practically the same score was due to just that experience from the last six months and, being reflective on a put a lot of time and energy and resources into this project and it still hasn't quite manifested into what I envisioned it would be in within that time period. So I think that's where that time alignment piece is. We're right now. I've reclaimed a lot of that time. I'm doing things again that my emotion, like I know, if we were doing this a month from now, that emotional energy would will be higher. I know it will be. But again, I was trying to be as transparent and honest as possible based on where I was.

Maurice Thibodeau: 43:09

What this is. It's a sense making tool to guide your actions Right, and that makes total sense. And I'm hearing you say you have a different vision and you've taken you're already taken responsible actions towards changing that. So when you check in with all these elements that's the beauty of this when you check in with all these elements, you can be like oh, why is that where it's at and am I doing anything to change it?

Maurice Thibodeau: 43:38

And I am and in your case you're like I know exactly why it is. I have the awareness, I'm taking the responsible actions. I already know that's going to be great. Right, we found the insights you're already on, so we move on. Because you've got that said a lot of times, we'll find areas in here, in the sense making process, where maybe it's it's kind of hidden or you don't have a strategy or you're ignoring it. Those are the things we also want to bring out and put into action.

Dai Manuel: 44:07

So, pardon me, Okay, no worries, that makes great sense, though it really does, and I'm sure once we look at the finance piece, this will make even more clarity as far as next step actions right.

Maurice Thibodeau: 44:20

So let's go there right now. Right your emotional energy, the lowest of all I got 44%. Your emotional energy is a two, and one of the beautiful things about this, the one I get to see when I'm working with this, is I know that's a two compared to your regular almost seven. So it's a five points away from your particular set point and the furthest one. So we call that an anomaly. So we want to go there and say okay, well, okay, and you've already expressed this right, you've expressed frustration.

Dai Manuel: 45:00

Self to be more than anything, if I'm perfectly honest, and I think that's also why the emotional energy is so low in.

Dai Manuel: 45:04

that is because it's just I beat myself up over it. I totally do. I blame myself, right. It's just that blame game, that shame that comes with that. I just beat myself up. I totally do Because, also, it's like that thing is was I responsible, with my family, making that decision many years ago to exit from a company at a time that was an optimal exit, and be okay with that and recognize I was leaving a very stable position and that comfort that comes with that right and yeah, so definitely, I know that's that inner voice dialogue that comes up, especially when I'm like tires, hungry, irritated, frustrated, like whenever I'm feeling in a sort of low state. That is the worst that comes out of me. That little voice in the head gets really loud yeah, yeah, totally.

Maurice Thibodeau: 45:47

And when that comes up if you were, what would you do? Some same question what would you need to believe in order for you to feel more positive about where you are right now?

Dai Manuel: 46:05

Actually it's interesting. My wife and I talked about this. What was this idea? It's been a while we sort of stopped looking at our budget and our family finances. We just it's like one of those things where it's just you're feeling so just you just start doing more and more, and then you're like, I don't want to even acknowledge you, and so I know that's been me for the last six months just trying to like, yeah, and I've put that burden on my wife.

Dai Manuel: 46:28

So she's been the one that's really picked up the slack on that to be watching things, making sure that things are balanced, that things are paid, and I just because what I was struggling with she could see it, so she took that on. But you know it's been stressing her out now because she feels she's trying to do it all and I see how that's been affecting her and our relationship energetically, which is also why the love is lower than what usually is. So the immediate and extended family crunch there is also reflective of that. So now I can see why it's all connected, like I can see it much more clearly now, and so for me I think the biggest action and this is what I committed to my wife is that I'm getting super engaged, that going to get everything caught up, get really clear on where we're at financially so we have a clear picture.

Maurice Thibodeau: 47:08

Yes.

Dai Manuel: 47:09

And create a plan to get to on the next six months. So, that's something I committed to doing by next week. So this is like very real for me right now. That is what I'm going to be working on the weekend. So that's the action. I've already addressed that to start to move this number up.

Maurice Thibodeau: 47:27

Makes total sense. And let's just pretend that you hadn't done that yet. Let's pretend you had. So that's amazing In the context of like, when I'm reading these, like your gauges, I just want to make sense of it. So it's like your emotional level is a two and it's really common that we see the time alignment end up being really similar because of everything that you just described. Right, the way you've been in the last six months is like it feels crappy. It's you're in a low emotional energy and state. You want to avoid it and, gosh, life will give you lots of opportunities to avoid.

Maurice Thibodeau: 48:06

So easy, right, and then so if you hadn't have already made these commitments, one of the positive things would be like I'd be like okay, well, how is that strategy? Is that having an impact on any of these other categories that are really important to you? And you've just said love, and actually we've already talked about how it's connected to work and your energy around work, a media, family, it's okay. So is the way you're showing up your commitment in the world. So that's the C, a, b, c is the way that you're showing up in the world. Is that serving you and is that serving this category to getting a world fulfilled state? The obvious answer is no, and you've already started to take actions.

Dai Manuel: 48:51

You're like, no, it's not and I'm on it, and by next week I'm going to be in a more responsible state, correct the time alignment and I know when I get the time and I get focused, I actually have a plan so I can see a path that I can execute on or at least start to walk.

Dai Manuel: 49:10

I know the emotional piece will go up, I know it. I know it's not just, but also I can see those others, like social, leisure or war. I can see all those things improving just with that alone, because I know it affects those areas so much, so much socially, especially like I found myself pulling back from networking and being out there and because, again, that, like I said, psychological pressure that I've been feeling based on this stressor, it's hard to show up authentically and transparently right and to be truly vulnerable and it's not like someone want to open up in a conversation with somebody I meet for the first time. Hey, by the way, let me tell you about my emotional state or my financial. It's just not one of those things. So it's, and I'm the kind of guy that I'm okay to talk about anything. So it's, and when I find myself wanting not to talk about something, I know there's something there to be addressed.

Maurice Thibodeau: 49:56

Yeah, so the other, the, so that's the action right. So that's largely the cognitive process of you taking responsible actions in your life to move this into a higher, fulfilled state Amazing. And then the other thing that really came up and we haven't really talked about is is the heart part, it's the imposter syndrome and it's really moving into that with the tone of care and compassion of okay, when I think about where I'm at today in my financial life, I'm feeling like this and then, so my like part of mind accepts with you If we had a 90 minute container, we would do some work on this right away is to move into that belief set of, of that self deprecation of that why do you think you should be somewhere else and to move through that emotionally and then to let go of the stuff that's not serving you and then to regain back ownership of the exciting vision that you have, of the aligned value decision that you made. That's put you to where you are, of the perspective that this is a temporal position, that you have options. Right, so we would, but you got to go down the well of the why, why those emotions get triggered first. So we would go down that well so you can face them, you can feel them and then you can really kind of say, okay, well, what's true?

Maurice Thibodeau: 51:34

And that, with practice, right, that is, that's a framework of us owning our emotions, facing our emotions, moving through them and moving to a higher energetic state, moving to an energetic state that will support us to take the actions, because something switch for you and it's probably and again like it's probably your commitment towards your relationship and your family is what pulled you back into responsible action. That's not fair to her and we're fighting about this. So you, being the father and the husband that you are, you're going after it and I'm just pulling out, like the maybe the little bit of blind spot there. That's yeah, that's pulling you in, but let's make sure you address what got you feeling that way in the first place, which is that I should be in a different place.

Dai Manuel: 52:30

Yes, you're absolutely right. You're right. Yeah, it's that constant reflecting back on where I've been and feeling yeah, just feeling it Just some negative emotion around like I've regressed. Do you know what I mean? But I have. I mean I've progressed in every area of my life.

Dai Manuel: 52:48

Sure, finances aren't where I want to be, but every other area I've progressed, I've improved, I've gained more clarity and I'll even say wisdom and self wisdom specifically. So you're right, you're right, and it's amazing how much weight I give to them. It's amazing, and I do look forward to you and I having more of an in-depth conversation on that, because I think that makes sense. I think that would be something that I don't need to have everybody else leaning on that, but I can definitely have an update on how that goes later but because I think that's something that is definitely much more deeper and much more vulnerable and not necessarily something I'm ready to put out to the world right now, but so I think when we have that next coaching session, we can definitely go down that well, and I'd love to do that to be able to speak to everybody that's watching or listening to this.

Dai Manuel: 53:31

I want to be able to give you an update on this and let you know how these actions are going. I want to be able to go up to date on where am I at, how are these things going and, maurice, I'm excited to have you back as more regularly to speak to some of the aspects or ways that people can have immediate improvement in some of these weaker areas, if they can acknowledge it. I do recognize the time. We've been going a while here, but I want to give you the opportunity to have some closing remarks just to tie everything up before we say goodbye today. But also take note everyone, maurice ain't getting away that easy. He'll be back Because, also, we've been talking about doing some collaborations, so I'm excited to announce those on a future episode, but stay tuned, there's going to be some pretty cool stuff coming your way.

Maurice Thibodeau: 54:15

Yeah Well, thank you for that, and I want to make sure I want to just invite some of my own perspective, because I've made some of these hard decisions so I can truly empathize with some of the stuff that you're going through. On the financial and work piece, I want to give you the reminder that you're a creator that is chosen to create in the world. When you step onto that creation platform, you don't know exactly how it's going to go or how long it's going to take. It's a choice and it's a risk. It's a risk that 95% of the people in the world aren't taking. That's okay. We need creators in the world and I just really want to honor your process, because that's really how we lead in the world. That's how we create change.

Maurice Thibodeau: 55:09

The second thing I want to say is in that process, one thing that was helpful for me is it's okay to put a stake in the sand, too, with milestones of hey, I'm going to go this long, but I'm not willing to. I'm not willing to. So get really clear on your non-negotiables. I'm going to be on this path and I'm choosing to create, but my non-negotiables are I'm not going to have this get between my love relationship or I'm not going to go in the whole XML Some of those real, tangible set points that you and the people around you can agree to say, okay, this is where we're at. I said I wouldn't go any further and it doesn't mean that that's a full-on commitment, but it's a set point where you can go and say, hey, if we get here, I want to revisit this decision. It's totally okay. I want to just remind you of hey you're doing, you're on the role of the entrepreneur and the creator and that's a noble spot to be in.

Dai Manuel: 56:20

Maurice, thank you Honestly. Those words landed very well and it's a pleasant reminder, but it's also, I can feel that emotions that have excite because I have some more clarity. But when you feel clear, you feel confident and it's easier to take those next step actions. Because of that confidence and clarity, I have to really thank you. I feel very grateful to have not only have met you I'm so happy you reached out on LinkedIn Also. Secondly, you've allowed me to really experience this magnificent tool that you've created over your lifetime.

Dai Manuel: 56:51

I know it's not something that you invented overnight. It's been a long process to get here, and I know it's also something that will continue to evolve as your life evolves and people that are involved with this also evolve. I'm excited to be on that journey and on that path, but also I can't wait till the certification course in February. Yeah, that's going to be fantastic. I'm excited to really learn how to best use this tool and leverage it to help people get even better results in life. And so thank you, man, honoring you and what you've created here. It really is magnificent, and I'm not someone that blows stuff out of proportion at times, even though my energy might imply that this is the coolest tool I've ever seen as far as in the life coaching and the personal development space.

Dai Manuel: 57:32

I honestly feel it's the best assessment I've seen.

Maurice Thibodeau: 57:34

Stand up approval here, man. Thank you, Thank you and honor the process. I'll close with. What we would typically do together is we would solidify the insights and the actions and get them on paper. We don't have time to do that in this dialogue, but if it's okay with you, I want to offer that as homework for you.

Dai Manuel: 57:53

Please do Give some accountability.

Maurice Thibodeau: 57:55

So if you would be like, hey, this is what I'm taking, these are the insights I'm taking and these are my commitments, because we move all these data, just data. It's bringing it into consciousness so that we can create that commitment towards a more fulfilled life, always with that fuel, that B, a, b, that belief of okay, here's where I am, it's in alignment with my values. I chose this, I choose this, and deal with the head trash that gets in the way, and then hit that plan with everything you got. Yes, so, anyway. So I gave you some homework there. Thank you for the opportunity and I look forward to our next chat.

Dai Manuel: 58:43

Oh, me too. Thanks again, Maurice, and for everybody, be sure to. There'll be an outro shortly after this and also in the show notes. I'm also going to have some blog article content to speak to some of the key points that Maurice and I discussed today. So more on that in the outro. Be sure to check out the notes and keep abreast of how this goes, because I'm letting you all know now. I'm committed to this process to level up in all those areas that you just became very aware, that are behind the curtains and what I'm working through right now, and so I invite you to embrace a little bit of vulnerability, get honest with yourself, consider doing your own life inventory, assessment and other details on how you can do that as well. Again, Maurice, thank you honoring you, my man. I really appreciate the time and energy today, man.

Maurice Thibodeau: 59:26

Thanks so much.

Dai Manuel: 59:31

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